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“Nobody’s ready for marriage.  Marriage makes you ready for marriage… Marriage is a people-growing machine.”

David Schnarch, “The Sexual Ecology of Love Relationships,” SMU-in-Plano, March 10, 2011

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We find journaling rather helpful in getting to know ourselves, and would recommend this book, The Book of Me: A Do-It-Yourself Memoir. It’s for anyone trying to start journaling or who is just interested in connecting with thoughts about their life or the world. It is a journal with a lot of writing space and a lot of prompts that help jumpstart your thinking to write about lots of important stuff.

Here are some of the prompts contained in the pages:

• What was the biggest emotional risk you ever took, and how did it play out? 
• Both men and women

There are several personality assessments (or inventories) available out there – tools which help you learn about who you are and help explain your thinking, behavior, feelings and motivations. Below are some personality assessments we refer to and use with people. They have proven helpful to many in getting to know themselves better:

Myers-Briggs – http://www.myersbriggs.org/

The Enneagram – https://www.enneagraminstitute.com/

The Birkman Method – http://www.birkman.com/ (We also know a very talented and helpful Certified Birkman Consultant locally if you are interested.)

The human personality is a complex thing. No one instrument can capture the whole picture and account for all … Read more

Hey All! Our website, rlcwichita.com, has a new look! Come check it out. We hope it is helpful and informative.… Read more

We would like to introduce you to Katie Newman. She is the newest member of our team, but she has been practicing as a Social Worker for ten years. Katie loves to work especially with “angry teenage girls” and teens in general with defiance issues. She is great with teens and younger children as well. You can learn more about her at her profile here. We are thrilled to have her working with us!… Read more

Check out this article from CNN by Elizabeth Landau:

Loneliness spreads in social networks

We are all formed by our experiences – our upbringings, our relationships, all the events which are parts of our stories. We cannot change by merely learning new information and facts. It is our experiences that will be transformative. Here’s to finding and creating some experiences which change us for the better!… Read more

Have you ever watched a tree grow? Be patient with yourself and others! Growth is a process which happens imperceptibly, but the final product is unmistakable.… Read more

You are probably either more task-oriented or more people-oriented. If you are more task-oriented, you most often focus on getting things done, can more readily lose yourself in a project, and are not as easily consumed with what those around you are thinking or feeling. If you are more people-oriented, you most often like to engage with people rather than things, have a good grasp on how those around you feel, and will probably suspend focus on tasks in order to attend to how people around you feel.

It is good for each of us to be both of these … Read more

We are multi-dimensional people – not only physical but mental, emotional and spiritual beings. We tend to focus on the physical since it is the easiest to see and the easiest to “dress up.” These other parts of us, though, deserve some attention. The goal is to renew and improve as many parts of the whole as we can. The work we put into these other aspects of ourselves will have an impact, even if it is not readily visible to everyone!… Read more

The smallest unit of our relationships is obviously between two people, but what happens in these relationships with those closest to us is very important. What we call human attachment is made up of the countless exchanges we have between ourselves and those closest to us, and they very definitely form our sense of self. When those relationships are built in positive, secure ways, it helps us manage emotion better, develop empathy for others, and gain the ability to basically “mindread,” (to know or make a good guess at what others are thinking by their facial expressions and other clues.)… Read more